Monthly archives: February, 2014

Do You Have Walking Depression?

1 in 10 Americans are affected

Depression is a condition that affects 1 in 10 Americans at one point in their life and 80% of people diagnosed with symptoms of depression are not receiving any specific treatment. Great many of the people not seeking out treatment  may be those who are able to go on walking, talking and even smiling while feeling depressed, what may be called walking depression. Sufferers may be able to hold down jobs, relationships and family commitments without ever letting on that anything is wrong. This type of depression can be very difficult to diagnose and treat since the person appears to be functioning so the consequences can be severe.

The most recognizable image of a person living with depression is someone who is lethargic and gloomy, perpetually exhausted and frequently bursting into tears. The phrase “nervous breakdown” conjures up the image of a person who has simply stopped working – someone who cannot go on any longer. But what about the people who can go on, no matter how much they are suffering?

Associate professor of psychiatry at Cornell University, Dr Gail Saltz, believes that people who are especially resilient find it easier to keep going as they don’t know how to seek help. “People are ashamed and they don’t understand [what is happening to them],” she says. She also places an emphasis on the amount of guilt a person may feel about their depression. “Guilt about everything and anything and things that are irrational. They might think, ‘I’m a bad person.’”

Do you have walking depression?

If you are finding it hard to enjoy life and experiencing frequent low moods, you could be living with Walking Depression. Here are some pointers to help you decide.

You’re not enjoying anything

You might be able to keep going but just barely. Your energy levels are just as good an indicator of your health whether you are still keeping to a daily schedule or not.

You frequently feel irritated or angry

When we squash how we feel on a regular basis, it becomes harder to control your emotions when they rise to the surface. Experiencing bursts of anger or irritation which seem out of proportion to what you are experiencing could be a sign there is something deeper at stake.

You tell yourself ‘I can’t’             

People who live with Walking Depression fear changing their routine too much in case they have to face how bad they normally feel. If you are frequently turning down enjoyable activities or finding excuses not to take a break, you could be feeling that you must carry on against the odds at all costs.

Walking Depression is a consequence of being deeply unhappy with how you are living your life. “You face a decision: Will you seek out a mental health practitioner to assist you with  your unhappiness, or will you allow it to continue?

 If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, seek out your local Los Angeles Psychotherapist for an assessment. Take advantage of it and take charge of your life.

3 Ways to Put The Spark Back In Your Marriage

Leave your comfort zone and change it up!

For many of us the most comforting aspect of marriage or long term relationship is its predictability, but it is precisely that feeling of comfort that leads to feelings of boredom over time. Some couples end up trying couples therapy, or group counseling but there are some things you can try at home to bring the heat back into the relationship.

In order to get the spark back in to your relationship you will need to give up some of your comfort and change things up.

Introduce an element of surprise to your partner

This can be something as simple as keeping your plans a secret for where you are going for dinner.  Research shows that when ambiguity is introduced into something positive, the uncertainty in and of itself tends to increase our pleasure.

Make yourself vulnerable

This is very similar to the feeling you may have felt on your first date.  Aside from allowing yourself to be emotionally exposed, being vulnerable deepens the intimacy and allows trust to develop in the relationship.  This can be accomplished by revealing things about yourself that your partner is not fully aware of or asking questions of your partner that you are not sure of the answer.  You can also feel vulnerable by taking risks such as speaking in front of an audience or performing in front of other, such as singing at a karaoke bar. Vulnerability works in part because it creates a similar biochemistry and physiology as when you and your partner were first falling in love.

Change up your routine

Lessen the comfort and increase the risk which basically means try to do something exciting to change up your routine.  Go out to dinner in a part of town that is totally unfamiliar to you.  Don’t try the same restaurants over and over. Make a list of restaurants from new countries and try them each week for date night.  Research shows that couples who participate in exciting activities together report to have happier feeling towards spending time with each other.

Of course all of these strategies can also be helpful in the bedroom. Lovemaking is one of the most significant ways most couples stay connected, but like the relationship itself, it can get stale over time. Shake things up in your sex life by making yourself vulnerable, taking risks, changing up your routines, and adding elements of surprise.

What are some of the things you have tried to heat things up in your relationship? Share with other couples below!!