Getting Science, Common Sense and a Sense of Adventure Working for You
In my earlier posts, “Why are Men Frustrated with Dating?” and “Why are Women Frustrated with Dating?” we explored the opinions and frustrations of both men and women when it comes to finding the right person for dating, partnerships and perhaps more.
Take the Innovative Approach
As Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Los Angeles, I counsel singles in individual therapy sessions, that are looking for new and innovative ideas on how to meet the right partner. What I tell them is that they’re on the right track by asking these questions – being innovative is the key word. When you’ve been dating one way for a while and it’s not working, it’s time to start thinking about doing things a little differently. Think outside of the box.
Play to Your Strong Points
If you’ve ever watched The Millionaire Matchmaker, Patty Stanger, in action then you know the kind of poignant questions she asks: “What is it you’re looking for in a mate,” “What is the age range you’re looking to date,” “What type of activities or hobbies do you have that you’d like to share with that someone special?” mostly questions that get to the heart of a person – who they are, what they like, what they’re into and what they’re looking for.
I’m not saying that you should bombard someone with questions like Patty on the first date, but I am stressing that asking the important questions gets you the answers you’re looking for. Yes, you’re on a fact finding mission – the mission is to find out if the person you’re dating has potential. Do you have the same likes, the same hobbies, the same goals.
Be Open to Changing What Hasn’t Worked
Another thing that Patty Stanger stresses is getting to know each other before sex. Actually, Patty suggests no sex before monogamy. This, of course, is a personal choice, but if you find yourself sharing the sheets with people you don’t know very well and then finding your relationships often end in disappointment later (when you learn that sex was about all you had in common) – maybe it’s time to think of a new approach. Why not try something different?
I can identify with Patty – we’re both Los Angeles women, and we both want you to find the right relationship for you. I’m not saying that I’m a matchmaker like Patty, but I am really good at helping you identify your relationship goals and I can suggest ways that you can meet and even exceed those goals. I can also help you gain a new perspective on the whole dating scene.
Love is out there waiting for you, and I can help you figure out how to find it. Make an appointment with me; come to my Los Angeles therapy office and let me help find a little relationship bliss.